Anger is one of those emotions that is both, natural and uncomfortable, at the same time. We all experience anger and we all have a different description of such. Anger is not the enemy – it is what we do with our anger that often creates a mess of things. In divorce, anger causes many issues, especially when making decisions.
We should not make decisions when we are angry anyway, but when anger is emotional, it gets bigger faster. Learning to manage our anger, use it to our advantage, and overcoming the impulses surrounding our anger, will make our workplaces truly hum. Anger makes us feel bad and it also fuels us – sounds like an oxymoron. It sometimes grabs us by surprise and we are swept up in its path. The best course of action is to manage our thoughts and control it. That happens as we understand its tenacity. By understanding what anger truly is, we are embarking on the first step to overcoming its pitfalls.
The Anger Cycle
Events happen every day that are out of our control and the thoughts (based upon our lived experiences) we have about such events cause us to have feelings (physical ones) which leads us to take action (thus causing a new event) and the cycle continues.
EVENT –… THOUGHTS — > FEELINGS –… ACTION –… and on and on…
The only real way to change the cycle of anger, is to control and manage our thoughts to ones with a positive outlook. Look forward and not backwards as we cannot change the past. For more information, on anger and divorce read… Divorce Bullying… An Epidemic by Twiggy Bean, PhD.